Belly Buttons

I tell my boys:

“If you have a belly button; you have a mommy.”

Now that I am a mommy I want them to know,

“if you have a belly button there is someone who was once a woman that wasn’t defined by children.”

I want them to know that they exist because a woman decided to bring them into this world.  A woman decided to make them her focus.

I know how they see me. 

I’m “theirs”:

I’m their mother.

I’m married to their father.

I cook their dinner; take care of them when they are sick.

I hold their hand when they are scared.

I love them and make them feel the safest they will ever feel in their lives.

I want them to know that if they have a belly button, they have been given a special gift.  They’ve been given someone who has taken her own passions, her own dreams, her own goals and changed.  She will never again be who she was.  It’s not possible.  She’s “theirs” now. 

I hope they grow to realize if they have a belly button, there’s a woman who transformed overnight to be theirs and I hope they realize all of this way before I did.

Thanks mom…I think I’m growing up.

Parenting Tip of the Day:  Stay true to yourself in some small way to keep yourself whole when your children are young.  Let them know that you have feelings that they hurt when they’re rude, you have goals that you still hope to accomplish as a woman and a professional, and while you love them, you are a person too that deserves their respect and some time to yourself.  You can’t give everything and still have something left.


8 responses to “Belly Buttons

  1. Actually Amanda–I found number three to be the most challenging. I can remember not even breathing for a week after Benjamin came home — so you’ve reached the break point and survived. CONGRATULATIONS!

  2. Wow! Four boys? I have three and the thought of one more is a little overwhelming. You seem to be doing a pretty good job so I’m inspired!

  3. Thanks Sunny–I KNOW you have a belly button!

  4. Oy–Steve does that “take you out of the world thing”. Drives me nuts. Yes, I have to read the Belly Button post. Not sure what that’s all about.

  5. That is such a cute post. I love the whole story and justification.

  6. I love it! (Sort of a spin on the “I brought you into this world and I can take you out!” approach I usually take.)
    Dianna, your men are so lucky to have you.
    and my humor for the day – in the Possibly Related Posts – remember these are automatically generated – “Belly Buttons May Signal a Woman’s Fertility” 😀

  7. Hmm-mine was never that cute so I guess I didn’t lose on that one :). Most of my boys are “innies”… except the really skinny one and he’s an “outie”. At least they won’t want to get them pierced…I hope….

  8. And lets not forget that she might be a woman who doesn’t want her own belly button exposed just because it’s fun to compare.

    Hers looked a lot cooler before she gave birth and gave the “cuteness” to yours.

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