I tell my boys:
“If you have a belly button; you have a mommy.”
Now that I am a mommy I want them to know,
“if you have a belly button there is someone who was once a woman that wasn’t defined by children.”
I want them to know that they exist because a woman decided to bring them into this world. A woman decided to make them her focus.
I know how they see me.
I’m their mother.
I’m married to their father.
I cook their dinner; take care of them when they are sick.
I hold their hand when they are scared.
I love them and make them feel the safest they will ever feel in their lives.
I want them to know that if they have a belly button, they have been given a special gift. They’ve been given someone who has taken her own passions, her own dreams, her own goals and changed. She will never again be who she was. It’s not possible. She’s “theirs” now.
I hope they grow to realize if they have a belly button, there’s a woman who transformed overnight to be theirs and I hope they realize all of this way before I did.
Thanks mom…I think I’m growing up.
Parenting Tip of the Day: Stay true to yourself in some small way to keep yourself whole when your children are young. Let them know that you have feelings that they hurt when they’re rude, you have goals that you still hope to accomplish as a woman and a professional, and while you love them, you are a person too that deserves their respect and some time to yourself. You can’t give everything and still have something left.